My best friend has a new friend and I don’t like it.

Dear Helpline,

My best friend has a new friend and I don’t like it. Ever since she started hanging out with her new friend she’s spending less time with me. How can I get her to stop hanging out with this new girl?

Dear Anonymous,

In many situations, this reaction is expected. Perhaps you feel threatened; your attitude suggests that you feel this new friend may replace you. However, you need to keep in mind that this is a little selfish on your part.

It is a good thing when an individualhas a social circle that accepts them and constantly has them in high spirits. Instead of wishing that your friend would stop hanging out with her, you should try spending some time with her as well. I’m sure your best friend has suggested that the three of you spend some time together or introduced the two of you; be amiable. (Always!)

You may be surprised to find out that she’s great company and the three of you may become an inseparable trio. Whether or not this occurs, keep a positive attitude.  I’m certain that if you were in your best friend’s, friend’s position, you would want to be accepted as well. Give it some time, most likely, eventually things will work out.

However, if it doesn’t, you can join clubs where other individuals share common interests as you. Try your best to maintain that special bond with your friend however.

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