Be careful what you say around the children, they are like sponges and absorb everything you say!
I was once told that by a very dear co-worker who cringed when I referred to a teacher as cruel individual for not allowing her students the freedom and pleasures of enjoying their summer vacation. She had bombarded the students with a homework that looked like it would have taken the entire vacation period to complete.
Without thinking, and many of us are guilty of such actions I blurted out my feelings in front of the young student. Thankfully she didn’t hear what I said or if she did she played the role of a deaf child well. After my apparent scolding I reflected on what I was told and it made perfect sense; I may not have seen the impact of my words manifest before my eyes but some people aren’t that lucky.
A lot of what we say in front of young children we need to be wary of. As I took in some of the island’s best in Calypso at the Junior Calypso show on Wednesday I heard a parent criticize the judge’s decision in the presence of a child who had not won the crown. Needless to say the child was shattered and tears as he walked away with his second place trophy.
In her seemingly innocent way of comforting the boy, she levelled a series of accusations at the judges, questioning their credibility and the winner’s ability on the day. The dangers of her words eluded her as the young man fought desperately to hold back his tears.
It is a lot wiser to encourage young people to try their best even in failure. Infact, I believe it is with failure that one can truly enjoy the benefits of a reward. The way you feel after you have tried for years to succeed at a task and finally doing so is one that can’t be explained with words.
We need to teach our youth to lose graciously as opposed to blaming someone for his or her shortcomings. We need to remind them that in competition, there will be a winner and a loser. We must remember to instill in them the proverb “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try, try again.”
Let’s allow young people to enjoy the thrills and tears of competition, but enjoy it gracefully. That’s all for me this weekend but I’d like to leave you with a quote from one of my favourite rappers Big Sean “I want to change the world. I want to be a part of culture. I want to help teach.” Let’s teach them the right way.
Take care ya’ll and have a great weekend.