I want to get a piercing but my parents won’t allow me to get one

Dear Helpline,

I want to get a piercing but my parents won’t allow me to get one. I’m 16 and I think it’s unfair. My friends told me to get one anyway because my parents will make a big deal when I get it but will quickly forget about it. I’m torn. Should I take my friends’ advice?

Dear Anonymous,

Whilst I understand you feel that you are old enough to get a piercing, you need to understand that you must abide by your parents’ rules and will just have to waittill your parents are ready or, you are on your own, and can make your own decisions. Perhaps your parents have forbidden you to get a piercing because of their religious views, location of the piercing, or believe you are not old enough as yet.

It is tough, I know,especially when you are getting older, and parents maintain certain restrictions. Ask yourself—will the world truly stop because you are not allowed to get that piercing? Is it worth losing your parents’ trust over something of this nature? Will friends with good intentions give you advice of this kind?

I am positivethat you already know the answer to this question. Consider this: has there ever been a time when youasked an individual to refrain from doing something, yet still they did? I am sure you were upset. Now, consider how your parents will feel when they clearly stated that you should not get a piercing and you went against their wishes.

Keep in mind that if you decide to go against your parents’ wishes, you, more than likely, will be deprived of certain things.I am sure you do not want that.

You also need to be mindful of the company you keep. Careless advice from your social circle can place you in unwanted situations. Questionyourself— are these good friends who made a careless remark? Or are these friends who continuously feed you negative advice? If it is the latter, then I strongly suggest that you find better company.

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