I have always been a skinny girl and I have always been placed under the microscope

Rae Anthony

Rae Anthony

Dear Diary,

After completing this week’s ‘Soapbox’, I realized I needed to stand on my own box and do some ‘venting’ of my own.

I have always been a skinny girl and I have always been placed under the microscope because of that ‘sin’. Often, people (strangers too), have a good look or glance at me and decide that I’m not their idea of perfection. Ever so often, it amazes me, and I let out a small laugh; utter disbelief.

I am constantly reminded that “men don’t like skinny girls”; “men like girls with meat on their bones”. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve rolled my eyes at these sayings.

There’s no denying, I want to gain a few extra pounds. 15 maybe. Not gasp-worthy since the last time I consulted my scale, I weighed a shocking 97 pounds.  But don’t get me wrong—being small never caused me to lose a wink of sleep.

Before I get to my main point, let me just say that there’s nothing like a gorgeous, full figured woman and of course I understand why so many are attracted to full figured women.

However, what I dislike is when individuals hurt others (men and women) in the process, insisting one be like the other, when in fact, we come in all shapes and sizes. Just imagine a world of full figured women, skinny women or “in between” women only (and vice versa)—that would be a pretty boring world wouldn’t it?

Imagine if we were all chocolate coloured, or white in complexion, or had the same noses andsame texture of hair. Obviously, there is beauty in variety, hence the aforementioned.

Don’t think for a minute that skinny shaming is the only thing that irks me though. Putting down women who are on the bigger side is wrong as well. Although thicker women are receiving a lot of attention, often, these are not the women shown on runways; skinny women are the ones who receive praise. Take a look at the V.S special. And whilst you’re at it, look up, ‘Standards of Beauty around the World’ on YouTube—you’ll be amazed at what you find.

In the soapbox, we stated that one should encourage a friend when necessary. For instance, if a friend or stranger is overweight, don’t bring them down; rather provide words of encouragement when they need it most.

We live in a world where it is more than okay to trample on others—weaken their spirits; tear them down.

But don’t give anyone that power; they’ll destroy you.

As for me, whenever someone decides to make a joke because I’m skinny, does it ruin my day? Nope. Sometimes the joke may come from a mean-spirited stranger who wanted to have some ‘fun’. Why give a total stranger that power? And even if it comes from someone I know very well, my happiness is essential in this life. To think for a second I’ll allow your words to bring about self-loathing? You must be out of your mind.

With that said, I wish you all a wonderful weekend. Be inspired.

Sincerely, always,

Rae A.

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