I don’t feel motivated or know where to start

Dear Helpline,

I don’t even know where to start. About a year and some ago I was in my final year of A level. Towards the ending of that first semester I got really depressed and finally dropped out. I was pretty much in hiding after that; couldn’t look at my parents, felt like my friends had abandoned me especially my best friend. Graduating from A level and going to school abroad is something that I still want to do but I don’t feel motivated or know where to start. So I guess what I’m asking is, where do I start? How do I get that part of me back?

Anonymous.

Dear Anonymous,

I know sometimes life gets the best of us and it’s hard to go on, but despite this, I must say that it really bothers me that you dropped out in your final year, as if you had held on just a little bit longer, you would have at least crossed school off your list. But what’s done is done, and I’m sure you have replayed this chapter over and over. It’s sad that your friends abandoned you when you needed them most, but these things happen in life; it’s an ugly truth, however, eventually, you will be able to dust your shoulders and move on.
I’m happy that you want to go back to school—not everyone wants to after some time has passed. But as to how do you start again, hun, that’s something I’m afraid you have to do on your own. It’s hard work but I want you to give it your best because I know that you are capable of doing this. Truth is, many times people aren’t motivated to do things. We want it all but sometimes don’t make the necessary sacrifices and of course you can’t reap the benefits if you don’t do so.
The thing is you don’t want to look back years from now, wishing you had done it earlier, or that you made an effort to pursue that dream of yours; you don’t want to live a life full of regret. Life gets extremely hard sometimes for all of us. But it is up to us, to push through, and continue. You may cry at times and that’s okay and there are times you may want to give up. But this is when you have to give your all.
Perhaps your parents and or others have lost faith in you. Perhaps you hear this voice telling you, you can’t—you CAN. And it is up to you to show people what you’re made of; show them that you can rise from the ashes. You owe it to not only them, but most importantly yourself.
I know you can do this. This is your chance to make things right; to be better. Listen/read motivational speeches if you have to. You can even try crossing off some fun things off your to do list before tackling school again; get excited about living. Join a group if you have to. It could be the book club or chess club—make new friends. Your old ones may have shown their true colours, but the new ones may be the best thing that ever happened to you. Keep your chin up love; life will get better. And if you believe that, and work hard whilst doing so, you’ll begin to see changes in your life.

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