Have you ever felt like you’ve been doing the same monotone routine all your life?

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Have you ever felt like you’ve been doing the same monotone routine all your life? Or perhaps that you’re stuck in a rut, and you’re making no progress with your life whatsoever? Welcome to life kids; pick a seat and be amused.

But that’s not the worst part; (oh how lucky you must be!) The worst is when everyone around you is seemingly conquering the world and you’re just… well, here; existing, hanging on for dear life, hoping that life won’t be so unkind. But ah, you’re not so lucky after all.

And of course, you must be thrilled for those around you; you can’t be seen with green smeared all over your face now can you? So you put on a façade—a mask, and you offer the widest of grins, but it’s transparent as ever—unbeknownst to you however.

But it’s hard; it’s hard to be genuinely happy at someone’s success or successes, when it’s ‘shoved’ in your face… it’s just a blatant reminder that your life is as stagnant as ever. You see it: the Facebook posts touting the success of others: graduation, promotion at work, happy relationships, entrepreneurship… engagement! And you wonder, when? When will it be your turn?

Some individuals played the right cards; they worked hard, tirelessly, yet still, they’re still stuck at square one; or sometimes progress, but life surprises them and they recede. Others made poor choices; they flunked school and the mere thought of starting again gives them a splitting headache as they were never the “smart ones”. And for some, they simply don’t have the time even if they wanted to; they have to pay the bills—it’s simply too late to start all over again.  And the list goes on and on.

I’m sure you’re fishing, or impatiently waiting for my advice.

Here’s what I have to say: our lives all move at a different pace. An individual may accomplish something major in a week, a year, a day even! And for you, it may take longer; much longer. Allow another’s success to motivate you; you can even ask the individual for tips (if the individual is humble, and won’t rub their successes in your face; that can be hard; or you can swallow the pill, and ask for tips nonetheless). It’s your gain at the end.

Be realistic. You may not be able to accomplish what the individual has now. Work towards achieving your smaller goals first and not outdoing the other (not that that’s a bad thing!) however, learn that things take time. Be patient and most importantly,be true to yourself. Don’t aspire to be a paramedic (just because Jill is) when you never had a passion for the job to begin with; chances are that you’ll be unhappy.

Be determined. You may have the lousiest of jobs now, (kids even) and it may seem likethere is no way out. But with determination you can go a long way. You may not be able to take classes now, but buy a book (when you have saved enough) and read up on the field you are interested in. It may take you some time to come up with the money, but soon enough, you’ll get there.

God rewards those of us who work hard. And if you put in the time, (without taking shortcuts or resorting to ungodly acts), your hard work, surely, will pay off.

Again, remember that our lives are not the same and move at a different pace. Also keep in mind that sometimes we may have a plan jotted down, however God has an entirely different plan for us.

I came across a post on Facebook that is in alignment with my message this weekend. The message: “Don’t lose faith when you see others receive answers to their prayers. Don’t be envious of others’ testimony. If you haven’t received your own blessings, don’t despair. Say to yourself “My time is coming, and when it hits the surface of the earth, people shall yield in admiration.”

Be encouraged my loves.

Sincerely, always,

Rae A.

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