I feel like we’re turning into enemies

Dear Helpline,

I have known my friends for a long time but now I feel like we’re turning into enemies. I know I need to make new friends but I don’t know how; I think am too shy.


Dear Anonymous,

I don’t know the full details of your situation; however, based on what you’ve provided, it’s evident that you believe parting ways would be best. Before you make that final decision however, evaluate the situation one last time—are you certain it can’t be fixed? Discuss the situation with a close family member or another trustworthy individual—what are their thoughts? Do they share your beliefs or think otherwise? Are they wrong or right?

Of course, you know your situation better than anyone. If these friendships are truly unhealthy, by all means you should end it. However don’t make the split a nasty one.

As for new friends, you’ll be surprised at how easy it is to make new ones! You can make things easier by offering a simple “hi”, or joining an open conversation. Try it. I know it may seem scary, but it really isn’t. (Been there)!

You can also join groups where you have common interests with others; it’s one of the best ways to meet new people and make new friends in no time. Maybe tryout the “lame” club at school?You’ll be surprised to discover that the club and its members are not as boring as you think; you can try others as well.

Remember however, to get positive new friends. If you did something terrible that changed the direction of your old relationship, refrain from doing so in the future. (You should also apologize to your friends, hopefully, things will work out. If not, the important thing is that you apologized; this shows that you are mature and makes you a better person).

You have an exciting journey ahead; I’m sure of that. Put yourself out there—see how it goes. Write back and let me know.

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