R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me! That is an excerpt from Aretha Franklin’s signature single in the late 1960. It was a groundbreaking female empowerment anthem that I believe is still relevant to this day. But, just what is this respect that everyone craves but seldom receives? How does one “get” that respect that is greatly sought after? Let’s top off the questions by asking how does one keep the respect when they have received it?
The meaning of respect as derived from the English dictionary simply means “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.” According to Wikipedia respect can also be considered “as a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something considered important, or held in high esteem or regard” – sounds simple enough right? Of course it does.
Let’s now understand how does one “get” that deep admiration from someone else. To do so I’d like to paint a scenario in your mind as you read. Think of someone you would take greatumbrage to if they were disrespected. If you are like most individuals you would quickly say a parent or more specifically a mother.
That is because as a child growing up the first words often uttered were mama, and the only person seen in the house hold was a mother. To make a long story short, with a mother the amount of work she tirelessly puts in caring for her family,mommy is like a super hero and as a result she earns everlasting respect. That’s right! Respect isn’t something you “get” or demand, it is earned.
How it is kept is a beautiful trait that not everyone possesses. In a blog I recently read written by Lulu Salavensgen, she vehemently says that“without expectation, give what you truly want out into the world, only then, will you get what is meant for you. It’s not always a fair trade, but always returned in abundance.” Sadly, not everyone has the mannerism to respect the very people they demand it from and quite frankly my friends, that is poor.
This is why many world leaders today struggle to keep their colleagues’ admiration and by extension, their respect. I am sure you can pinpoint an individual or two who lacks the basic qualities of earning the respect of his peers but for now we won’t call out any names. Let’s just keep watching the tele and learn from each error made.
Have a great weekend ya’ll and God bless.