You are sitting here with a million and one things running through your mind. You are unsettled becausethe feelings for someone you once valued has now come into question. What could have set off that undesired feeling? That is not like you; you’re not the one to be in a somber mood for too long even when the news of your most loved relative came like a thief in the night, shocking your entire family, you were the pillar of strength and constant ray of sunshine. So again, the question arises, what happened?
As you answer softly in your mind, all the feelings that you felt at that virgin hour – that first time you received the news, consumes you synchronously.A lifelong friend, a soulmate, someone that you saw as your forever plus one had done the unthinkable. You set up contingency plans incase certain obstacles were to come in the way of a match made in heaven, but still you were unprepared for this. You see, for you any and everything can and should be forgiven, but, there is always the one thing that you never really counted on happening; betrayal.
The word itself is laughable to you because you believed that it would be a cold day in hell before you would have to deal with that demon, but here it is, staring you right in the face and you have no form of defense or combat plans for the arduous battle ahead. You’ve contemplated giving up the war as you’re the General on the battlefield with no army to help you defend the front line or maybe implement a few tactics. Defense in depth comes to mind.
Just how will this play out? Is there an end to this torment? Yes, there is, because as you have been teaching yourself all long, all things can and should be forgiven. Even the most notorious of criminals always have a time stamp placed on their sentence. Even though time may not fully heal the wound, an act of forgiveness and a show of kindness just maybe enough to calm those feelings that engulfed your mind. In a blog by Dr. Randy Karmen titled The Power of Forgiveness, it is revealed that “forgiveness transforms anger and hurt into healing and peace. Forgiveness can help you overcome feelings of depression, anxiety, and rage, as well as personal and relational conflicts.”
With that said, readers, if you are battling with the decision to forgive someone, I leave you with your army of 27 words quoted above, good luck on the battlefield.
Have a great weekend and God bless.