I have noticed a very worrying trend with young people lately. No, it’s not the series of robberies that have taken place around the island or the untimely death of a brother who was in the wrong place at the wrong time and became another homicide. These serious cases need attention but this weekend I would like to focus my Slouch’s energy on the young individuals who believe that they must have people in their lives to complete them or to bring happiness into their world.
Let’s dispel a few myths. While you may need and enjoy the company of others, your entire being shouldn’t be dependent on another individual. According to blode.com’s writer Courtney Hardwick, you’re perfectly capable of doing many things yourself, including making yourself happy, so quit selling yourself short. Also, your mind shouldn’t be cultured as such where it will seem that you are obsessed with someone. It should not be a mortal necessity to have someone else’s company in your life as such a feeling may give an individual the green light to walk all over you especially when they realize that you are willing to make sacrifices to make a relationship work. Happiness must always start with you.
A few days ago I was watching a throwback documentary on the late singer Selena. Her untimely death is a clear example of why you shouldn’t be obsessed with another individual to the point that you can’t see yourself living without them. Selena’s friend and confidant,who had wall to wall photos of the singer in every corner of her home, killed her not because she was caught embezzling funds from the company, but because she couldn’t imagine Selena breaking ties with her. A sad end to a promising life.
I am sure many of you reading this would think that you can never be that obsessed with someone. I would say, never say never, because there is a disorder called OLD, “Obsessive love disorder”. It refers to a condition where you become obsessed with one person you think you may be in love with. You might feel the need to protect your loved one obsessively, or even become controlling of them as if they were a possession. While no separate medical or psychological classification exists for OLD, it can often accompany other types of mental health illnesses.
If you know of someone or maybe suspect that you might be suffering from OLD, fight the pride and speak to your doctor. Treatment can help decrease the symptoms while also preventing complications with relationships. I once remembered watching Untold Stories of a man that was so obsessed that he killed for love, don’t let that be you.
Have a great weekend ya’ll and God bless.