There comes a time in your life when you will have to make a decision about separating yourself from certain activities and/ or individuals. Take it from me that is one of the hardest decisions you will have to make in your lifetime. Imagine having something be a part of you for almost all of your life but through the years you’ve been cautioned by friends and family members that you can be so much more productive if you would just delete that person or activity from your life for good.
Such an action seems virtually impossible because to you this is what completes you. Like a soul mate, you can’t tick without its tock. You make up all types of excuses (some of them, even you have a hard time believing) as to why you can’t just turn your back and leave. After the interrogation, you go right back into that same toxic situation, uselessly stressing yourself out in the hope that one day things will get better. However, it doesn’t.
The amazing thing about being a human being is the gift of choices and options. Under no circumstances should your happiness be dependent on making other people happy. No, you need make the wise choice of making yourself happy first and then consider the option of making others feel the same.
A situation that has you angry, stressed, and welcomes migraines should be nullified immediately. You must be aware of ungrateful people, especially those who blatantly show you they care very little about your contribution or involvement in their lives. This is a classic example of the toxic situation we mentioned in the second paragraph.
Sometimes you are so focused on making everything around you as bright as a smile or a ray of sunshine that you have no problem forfeiting your own happiness. Additionally, youtake the scorn, disrespect and unwarranted criticism from the ingrate and look at yourself as a failure, trying tirelessly to please that person.
If any of what you read here speaks to you in such a way that you can say yes this is me, make today the last day you are someone else’s door mat. Somewhere out there is someone else waiting to welcome you with open arms.After all, Kerwin said it right in his song “Right for Somebody”. You are definitely not right for that individual or situation but you will be right for someone else.
Have a great weekend and God bless.