Self-love is a term that gets thrown around so much nowadays that it has almost become a cliché for many people. Constant reminders that you must love yourself some more or learn to love the skin that you’re in rings in your ears like the next popular Rihanna or Beyonce hit single.
Now don’t get me wrong and mistake my opening paragraph to believe that I don’t advise positively on selflove – in fact, I am a firm believer that self-love is important and it is essential to living well. According to pscologytoday.com self-love is a vital staple in our everyday living as it “influences who you pick for a partner, the image you project at work or school, and how you cope with the problems in your life.”
They further went on to explain that “selflove is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. It is dynamic and grows by actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths. Many people struggle with the term selflove and a select few mistake it for vanity. Here are a few things I have learnt about people who practiseselflove and how one can practise it.
People who have more selflove tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centred, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focussed on what you need, you turn away from automatic behaviour patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen selflove.
You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in selflove nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are. In conjunction with that practise bringing the right people into your life.
These are just a few of the points I picked up from an extraordinary individual named Deborah from the website and on her blog she has lots more useful information we can use, especially during this time of love!
I will stop here this weekend and remember ya’ll to be safe and God bless.
Scady.P
